Behind the Bar: The Secrets Bartenders Wish You Knew
Bartending is as much an art as it is a job. With years of experience perfecting the balance of flavors, speed, and showmanship, bartenders are true craftsmen of the cocktail. But what’s it really like behind the bar? Here’s a glimpse into bartenders’ world, sharing their pet peeves, tips on ordering, and a few secrets they wish every guest knew for a smooth, enjoyable experience.
1. Timing Matters: Knowing When (and How) to Order
Bartenders appreciate guests who know how to order efficiently. During peak hours, bars can get busy, and quick, clear ordering goes a long way. Try these tips:
Be Ready: If you’re ordering for a group, gather everyone’s drink preferences before you approach the bar. Knowing what you want and placing the entire order at once makes it easier for bartenders to keep things flowing.
Stick to the Basics When It’s Packed: While they love showing off their mixology skills, complex cocktails can be hard to make when it’s packed. When the bar is busy, consider sticking with simpler orders to keep the line moving.
Make Eye Contact: Eye contact is a great way to signal that you’re ready without shouting over other guests. Bartenders will take note and get to you as soon as possible.
2. The Perfect Tipping Etiquette
Tipping is a big part of bartending culture, and knowing the right etiquette can make a huge difference. Here’s what most bartenders wish you knew:
Tip Per Drink or at the End: For each drink, leaving $1–$2 is a standard tip, and for cocktails or specialty drinks, $2–$3 is appreciated. If you’re starting a tab, tipping 15–20% at the end is a good rule of thumb.
A Little Extra for Custom Creations: If you’ve ordered something off-menu or asked for a creative twist, adding a little extra to the tip shows appreciation for the extra effort.
Cash is King: While card tips are great, cash tips often reach bartenders faster, so if you’re able to tip in cash, it’s always appreciated.
3. Be Patient and Respectful—It Goes a Long Way
Bartending is fast-paced, with bartenders juggling multiple orders, garnishes, and glassware. A bit of patience goes a long way and helps them serve you and others more smoothly.
Remember, You’re Not Invisible: Bartenders are experts at managing a crowded bar. If you’re waiting a little longer, trust they know you’re there and are working their way to you.
Use Polite Signals: Instead of waving cash or tapping the bar, try a simple nod or eye contact to let the bartender know you’re ready. The respect is always appreciated!
4. How to Score a Bartender’s Special Recommendation
Bartenders love when guests are genuinely curious about cocktails and open to suggestions. If you want something unique, ask for recommendations based on your favorite flavors or spirits.
Express Your Preferences: Tell the bartender your preferred base (whiskey, gin, etc.) or flavor profile (fruity, smoky, herbal), and let them get creative. You’ll often end up with a customized drink you might never have thought to order.
Be Open to New Flavors: Bartenders are experts for a reason—they know the best combinations and can introduce you to new flavors you’ll love. Being open to suggestions is a great way to expand your palate.
5. Pet Peeves and How to Avoid Them
Everyone has pet peeves, and bartenders are no exception. Here are a few habits that bartenders wish would disappear:
Snapping or Shouting: Nothing frustrates bartenders more than customers who snap or shout for attention. Polite signals and patience go much further in ensuring a pleasant experience.
Asking for “Something Strong” Without Direction: While bartenders are happy to make a stiff drink, the “something strong” request is vague. Instead, ask for a specific spirit or type of cocktail, like a Negroni or an Old Fashioned, if you’re looking for a drink with a kick.
Crowding the Bar: When a bar is busy, it’s helpful to step aside after ordering to make room for others. Plus, it keeps the bartender’s workspace open and helps them move quickly.
6. Quality Ingredients Make a Difference
One of the secrets to a great cocktail is the quality of the ingredients. From fresh citrus to small-batch bitters, bartenders know that premium ingredients elevate the drink. Many bartenders wish more people understood how much goes into sourcing quality ingredients and why it sometimes affects the price.
Appreciate the Details: Craft bars often source high-quality, often handmade ingredients. That perfectly sliced garnish, fresh juice, or specialty ice cube didn’t come out of nowhere—it’s all part of what makes a cocktail worth savoring.
Don’t Skimp on the Basics: Quality doesn’t just stop at high-end spirits; it applies to mixers and garnishes as well. Fresh-squeezed lime juice, for example, can make a world of difference in a margarita compared to bottled juice.
7. The Best Way to Explore the Menu
Many bars put a lot of time and effort into creating a seasonal cocktail menu, and bartenders love when guests are adventurous and try something new. Here’s how to approach a cocktail menu like a pro:
Try the House Specialty: Most bars have a signature drink or a seasonal special. Start there to experience what makes the bar unique.
Ask for Their Personal Favorite: Bartenders often have a favorite drink to make or one they’re particularly proud of. Asking for their personal recommendation is a great way to find hidden gems on the menu.
Branch Out: If you usually stick to the same type of cocktail, let the bartender know you’re open to trying something different. You might discover a new favorite.
8. Savor the Experience
Finally, bartenders love guests who enjoy the cocktail experience and take time to appreciate the craft. Bartending is an art, and cocktails are meant to be savored.
Sip Slowly: Good cocktails are crafted to be enjoyed, so take time to savor the flavors rather than rushing through your drink.
Watch the Process: If you’re sitting at the bar, watching the bartender work can be fascinating. It’s a chance to appreciate the skill and creativity that goes into each drink.
Engage (Respectfully): Bartenders are often happy to share a bit about the drinks, techniques, or ingredients if you show genuine interest. Just be mindful of their time, especially if it’s a busy night.
Raise a Glass with Respect and Enjoyment
The next time you’re out at a cocktail bar, keep these insider tips in mind to ensure a smooth, enjoyable experience for both you and the bartender. By respecting their craft, being patient, and showing appreciation, you’ll not only make the bartender’s job easier, but you’ll also enhance your own cocktail experience. And who knows—your bartender might just whip up a special drink to say thank you in return!
Cheers to a great night out, and here’s to making the most of your cocktail journey.
